mirandaadria: briee: i am pro-choice. not...

mirandaadria:

briee:

i am pro-choice.

not because i think that a woman should be able to do whatever she wants with her body, or because human beings that are already alive should have more rights than the fetus or anything like that.

actually, my mindset is probably more in line with pro-life values in that i think that if you made the conscious decision to have sex (i am aware that not everyone who gets pregnant made that decision, i am not talking about the victims of any type of rape), then you should be ready to deal with the consequences - stds, emotional damage, pregnancy, etc. you knew that you could get pregnant when you made the choice to have sex, you should deal with the consequences.

however, i don’t think that anyone who doesn’t want to be a parent will be the best parent they could be (i don’t even think that a lot of people should be allowed to have children at all, but that’s a discussion for another time), and you shouldn’t bring a child into the world under the circumstance of being unwanted. it’s absolutely unfair to that child.

so that is why i’m pro-choice.

Consent to sex is not consent to pregnancy. The idea that sex is meant mainly for procreation is antiquated and needs to be eradicated. Humans have gone well beyond the need to mate for the sake of furthering the species at this point. Furthermore, when you say deal with the consequences, who are you really talking about? That’s right, the uterus-bearers. Those who do not have uteri can choose to simply walk out and not deal with the consequences. Pretty convenient, isn’t it? Have an orgasm, spill out some seed, and walk out. Why should pregnancy be a punishment for wanting some sexual intimacy, anyway? Even if both parties of PIV sex used contraceptives and planned for not creating a pregnancy, it can still happen.

while i can understand where you’re coming from, i also disagree. and this is the last i will post about this topic because, as well all know, text posts are ugly and i hate them on my blog.

i absolutely do not believe that sex is “meant for procreation.” i am sexually active and i am not trying to make babies, and there are countless people in the same boat. that’s not my point. the point is that, when you have sex, you are aware that it has the potential to result in a child, protection or not (there are people who are not aware, but that’s due to the failure of the education system, which is also a rant for another time). while not everyone fucking is trying to create a baby, everyone fucking should be aware that babies are made through sex. pregnancy isn’t a “punishment” - it’s part of the territory of sex.

and the whole men not having consequences thing? you think men don’t have to deal with any consequences? that in itself is a very backwards way of thinking. you are first assuming that men are totally emotionless beings, which is not true. yeah, there are some dickheads out there, but, hey, that’s life. there are dickhead girls, too. not all guys “have an orgasm, spill out some seed, and walk out.” maybe that’s your experience, but it’s not everyone’s. and even if that were some woman’s experience, that guy does have responsibility - if she had the child, he has legal obligations. AND if she ended up having the child, she could put it up for adoption. i don’t think it’s really fair to say that women have to deal with all the consequences of pregnancy and men don’t. because that’s false and presumptuous. there are a shitload of deadbeat fathers, but there are just as many deadbeat mothers. as far as the consequences of an abortion, that’s a little trickier. you can’t make a guy deal with that, but you are once again assuming a lot of things. you’re assuming that the woman wants the guy to deal with it, you’re assuming that the guy doesn’t want to deal with it, and you’re assuming that there is a strong emotional significance (to any party) of an abortion. yes, all of these things are a possibility, but they aren’t always, or even usually, the case. but again, all of those consequences are things that you should be aware of when you consent to sex. yeah, you hope everything goes swimmingly, but you’re aware of the fact that it might not, and you are still consenting to it. so yes, consent to sex is consent to pregnancy (although that pregnancy is not necessarily wanted and is legally terminable).

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